I am not attracted to straights. I am gay, gay, gay. And I want a guy who is gay.%0D\
What is it with you people who want sex with straightS?%0D\
Their dicks and jiz taste just like mine, I assure you.
We always want what we can''t have. My partner''s gay, I fuck him and I suck his cock. Seems to work out.
I lust after straights mostly because they''re usually whom I am surrounded with. I rarely go to gay bars and only know a few gay men. If I become fully engaged with the gay community and expand my circle of gay friends and acquaintances, then I may start going after them.
Gross! Give me a prancing flamer any day of the week!
OP is definitely NOT Andy Towle of Towleroad. Most of the men he puts on his site are straight celebs and it''s kind of pathetic.
I''m attracted to a confident, handsome man. He can be either gay or straight. His orientation won''t determine my attraction, just if I act on it.
This is why they hait us.
They''ve never realty been with anybody so they think men are men and they''re all the same. They''re not. Give me GAY. I won''t even sleep with bi guys. They have to be GAY.
The same reason women are attracted to gays. Ego. They want to be the ONE person on Earth who is so attractive and wonderful that they can change the sexuality of someone they deem worthy.
Almost universal rule: people want what they can''t have OP.
OP, you''re an idiot.%0D\
I don''t lust after gay or straigt people.%0D\
I''m a homosexual male. I LUST AFTER MEN. Some of them happen to be straight. It''s not like I can help it. Hell, half the time it''s not like I can even tell.%0D\
You''re annoying and fucked up, OP. Seriously. To claim that you''re not attracted to straight guys ever is just a fucking lie.%0D\
[quote]Their dicks and jiz taste just like mine, I assure you.\
But they don''t have gayface.
No, R13. And no.%0D\
I''m only attracted to straight women and monkeys.
they may be better looking than you
I''ve only always dated straight men. I don''t know why but I''m just not attracted to gay men. I go to a gay bar and I find not one single person attractive and would not even want to brush up against them. I go to a frat house and I find everyone attractive and would want to suck them all off.\
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Must be boring dates, R17.
No, they weren''t boring. They were pretty hot actually. But there was never any emotional connection because they were straight. It was always just about the sex.\
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Getting down to it, I think gay men are attracted to straight men because they're attracted to - that's right - men. And after that it gets complicated, because it divides into the sexual issues of individuals breaking into larger categories of attractions, with overlaps across groups.
There's a historic tradition in Western homosexual life of being attracted to masculine, athletic, virile types. The same kind of men women as a group seem to have been erotically attracted to.
In gay life we have fetishized this "natural" tendency and made it more complex - exaggerations of straight men becoming gay icons, for example.
We also are simply are attracted to men, and perhaps recognize that, despite the intrinsic and proper role of gay culture in supporting and nurturing us, we are of course part of the larger society. A part of us would like gay issues not to be issues, and for sex with men to happen without the stigmas, weirdness, dangers, and such that homophobic traditions have left for us to live with. We believe that many "straight" men are more flexible in their sexuality than society has allowed them to be. And being a man among men is a turn-on for us.
And, of course, other gay men enjoy exactly the opposite, and dig the danger, nastiness, and sense of being used, abused and taking temporary control of the "top."
When I'm looking at men and responding to their appeal I am not thinking about whether they are gay or not. I like all kinds of men and don't play any particular role or look for a type. I don't find men attractive who are themselves types - I like men who are individuals. So I'm not attracted to anonymous lunkhead straights or gay guys who live as stereotypes.
It just seems that people who fetishize and script their sex lives are stuck somewhere and have issues to work through. Today's dominance of marketing and consumerism in our lives is contributing to terrible effects on young people's sexuality, I think, as if they didn't have enough challenges already.
OP, but are you as masculine and athletic as the average straight dude? do you have stereotypically nonmasculine mannerisms and interests? because masculinity, uncompromised by any effeminate traits or attributes, is what attracts me to dudes.
cuz they are masculine!
[quote]I''ve only always dated straight men.%0D\
Am I missing something here?
OP I guess it''s the thrill of the chase. Like a lot of things, wanting what you ultimately cannot really have, and if you do, then the reality turns out to be more mundane than the expectation in many cases.
Gay men who brag about having sex with "straight" men are pathetic.%0D\
We all laugh at you, you know.
Their dicks get real hard and they can shoot at least 10 feet!\
R17/19=Momma/Noodles having one of her dementia moments again.
It''s not the thrill of the chase. There is no thrill in chasing a straight dude who is not hot, athletic, buff, and goodlooking. It''s the looks plus masculinity that creates the thrill.
Gay guys like straight men for the same reasons straight women like gay guys. People don''t liked to be judged and graded like a slab of meat and passed on like a cow in a slaughterhouse. Straight guys seem to care about the real you, whereas gays don''t care about anything but their own orgasm and status.%0D\
It may not be real, but that''s how it plays out.
Masculinity is a joke.
Straight cock on the hoof is the absolute BEST!!!!%0D\
I dont specifically look for straight dudes ONLY, but I am attracted to dudes like this (voice, look, mannerisms, interests, vibe) one at the link below.
I am one of those guys that tend to crush pretty hard on straight guys and I''m getting sick of it. Aside from the masculinity that they possess, it''s probably also due to the fact that we want things that ultimately, we can never have.
I am attracted to masculine men. The idea of a man who carries himself like Bette Davis trapped in a mans body, is a huge turnoff. \
If I wanted to be with a big fairy, I''d go after a woman. \
OP is Rep. Aaron Shock (R-Illinois #18).%0D\
[italic]Welcome to Datalounge.com, Congressman Shock![/italic]
[quote]Straight guys seem to care about the real you, whereas gays don''t care about anything but their own orgasm and status. It may not be real, but that''s how it plays out.\
Straight men are laughing at you Mary. \
[quote]I am attracted to masculine men. The idea of a man who carries himself like Bette Davis trapped in a mans body, is a huge turnoff. \
So says the queen with a purse falling out of her mouth.
Straight men are for the most part tops, gay men for the most part are bottoms...you do the math.
[quote]Straight men are for the most part tops, gay men for the most part are bottoms...you do the math.\
Oh the irony.
I cum IMMEDIATELY whenever I suck straight cock.%0D\
I second R37
r38 has it right. If a guy is masculine, intelligent and attractive, of course he would gain our interest no matter if he''s gay or straight. Nellie queens can''t comprehend this concept and will start threads about "Lusting after straights."
It''s only the nellie quuens who CAN''T attract MEN who are doing all the shrieking in here. I wouldn''t trade my straight cock for anything.
The elements of masculinity gay men are attracted to are learned. It''s learned through socialization during childhood with other boys. For gay men who have not really been around heterosexual males from an early age to adulthood would not know this and would think all of masculinity is genetic. Gay men pick up their effeminate characteristics from socializing with girls during childhood. Obviously these two factors of heterosexual males socializing with boys and gay males socializing with girls during childhood there will be a "masculinity gap."%0D\
Another factor in the gay community is there is no "you have to do this to attract a gay man" language instead it''s all about "being yourself."
[quote]Gay men pick up their effeminate characteristics from socializing with girls during childhood. %0D\
What about gay men who socialized with girls during childhood, r47, and didn''t turn into screeching nelly queens?%0D\
What about straight men who socialized with girls during childhood, why aren''t they skipping down the street as if they''re on the Yellow Brick Road?%0D\
What about men who grew up on a horse farm - do they have sex with horses instead of with humans?
R48, don''t listen to that nurture over nature moron. That theory has long been disproved. Nellie queens will be nellie queens no matter how hard you try to "socialize" it out of them. Lots of homophobic dads can attest to the frustration of trying to butch up their gay sons---doesn''t work.
Im not attracted to guys that cant be a complete bitch, at least in bed. So I don''t lust after straight men a lot.
I think some gay men chase after allegedly str8 men are 1) The chase is hot 2) Once he nabs the str8 guy and gets him into bed, it''s not likely to become romantic. The secrecy usually required keeps things exciting.
Gay man: " Look at my fabulous new underwear. I got it online at 50% off. Oh, did you hear that Bobby is having a fabulous party on Saturday to introduce his new boyfriend. Boyfriend? That queen is at least forty! Does my hair look nice?"%0D\
Straight man:"Suck my cock, bitch."
I don''t necessarily lust after straight guys, but they tend to be the full package. Gay guys have such lousy personalities that sometimes it''d be easier to be straight.
r53, see r35.
sorry, but I am just not attracted into dudes who are not into sports; listen to female music; and can''t relate to average, mainstream guys. it''s not about sexual orientation, it''s about masculinity.
So am I correct, r55 & r56, that you''re attracted to fat, ignorant, narrow-minded douchebags? You know, average & mainstream straight guys? You''re welcome to them.
The rest of us
My issue is that I''m attracted to effeminate guys...and yet pretty much all fem guys carry MAJOR diva attitude, and they rarely seem to have earned the right to have attitude, it''s all "drama for drama''s sake."%0D\
Why can''t I meet a sweet femmy guy who is smart, and not pretentious? Why does femininity sometimes SEEM very ''nurture''? %0D\
People aren''t BORN with bitchy attitudes, they have to learn them.
Look, if you are going to date queens you need to develop an immunity to the bitchiness. Stop taking it so seriously.
Bitchiness is fake femininity. It is passive aggressive alpha male competitive behavior.
[quote]you''re attracted to fat, ignorant, narrow-minded douchebags? You know, average & mainstream straight guys? You''re welcome to them.%0D\
Get her, stamping her feetsies! r57 sits there in sequins and mascara wondering why masculine guys run away.
R57 wears purpls Crocs.
I like to pursue str8 guys because you can introduce them to so many new sensations. \
I''ve sucked off many str8 men who had never cum in anyone''s mouth before. I always tell them, "When a woman''s sucking your cock and you tell her you''re gonna cum, she pulls away. When a guy''s sucking your cock and you tell him you''re gonna cum, he just sucks harder."\
Also, most str8 guys have never had their asses eaten. After they relax a bit, they go WILD.\
Finally, that str8 guy you bed will likely remember you for the rest of his life. He may never, EVER tell anyone but he''ll remember you. Compare that to some WeHo queen who can''t remember how many guys she went to bed with last month.
[quote]"Also, most str8 guys have never had their asses eaten. After they relax a bit, they go WILD."%0D\
No truer words were ever spoken. %0D\
For once a poster who actually [italic] gets [/italic] it.
Funny, who purports to know what "most straight guys" like.
You can''t help who you are attracted to, it is like only being attracted to Asians.
I'm not interested in a guy who lisps. Gay or straight. Chances are better with a straight.
Then all of you on this thread should actually write: "LUSTING AFTER MASCULINE GAY MEN" since NO STRAIGHT GUY WILL GET FUCKED BY ANOTHER MAN'S DICK. What don't you get????
Lesbian here and I wish I found more lesbians attractive to be honest. It's not easy being picky. Especially when I like femmes. That said, I do think it's masochistic to be into straights.
R3, usual homophobic queen reply!
Gosh, so many homophobes here who still confuse "straight" with masculine
One of my friends - he's 50 - still falls in love with straight married men. It's sad really. He knows they'll never be more than friends yet he cannot help himself.
Straights = Virgins
Gays = Whores
I wish the average openly gay man were masculine and athletic (football, basketball, hockey). Just being honest.
R76, but when masculine man comes out you straight-worshipping queen instantly call him "homophobic" because he doesn't like fems
I think you are confusing attraction with selection. If you are attracted to men, you are attracted to men. Often you may have no idea if the man you are attracted to is gay or straight.
[quote]I've only always dated straight men.
If and only if you are a straight woman, that makes sense. If you are a man, your grammar gives away your stupidity.
"I've only always...." is meaningless. And, if they've dated you, in the sense of a romantic or sexual date, they are not straight.
OP, I understand why you feel it's odd that some gay men fetishize men because they are straight. But let's say you are attracted to a man, then you learn that he's straight, does it follow that you no longer find him attractive? Because that really doesn't make any sense.
So much misinformation on this thread. First of all, if you have sex with a man, he is not straight. Period. Unless you are the "only one" he has ever experimented with. Or are the "one exception in his life." Yeah, sure. Straight but for you? hahahahaha
Men who have sex with other men can be labelled a lot of things but straight is not one of them. So quit lying to yourselves.
I've always thought it was a waste of Time OP. Why lust after someone you can't have? Like celebs. You have no chance with them so why buy posters of magazines with them to lust? Waste of time.
R83, what makes you think I can't have sex with celebrities? I've met celebrities. F'rinstance, I've had dinner with both Mercedes Reuhl and Charles Osgood. Maybe I could have scored......
Straight dudes are more masculine. That is what I like.
I am only attracted to straight and bicurious dudes.
I am attracted to straight and bi women only
Straight dudes are not clean down there...no thanks!
@83. Don't know where your self esteem is because I'm totally going to score with Taylor Lautner....shame ...shame, but I like what I like,
I truly believe that the bulldykes and the flames keep the feminine lesbians and masculine gay guys in the closet
r90, indeed they do!! Sadly, that is what society believes gay people are like.
[quote]I've had dinner with both Mercedes Reuhl and Charles Osgood. Maybe I could have scored......
It's Charlie's son, Winston, who's the hunk in that family.
I love watching gay4pay guys go at it. So fucking hot.
For some guys lusting after straights, it's like a game. They want to see if they can be the first guy to give a b.j. to a previously straight guy. Turning him bi via an excellent b.j. is a challange. When the newly-bi guy discovers what he's been missing, it gives the gay guy a feeling of accomplishment.
19 out of 20 men are straight.
All men are wired to be bi. It's society that pushes them to be straight.
What social forces pressure gay men away from sex with women, R96?
Sometimes they only realize they're gay when they're getting fucked by another guy. My first BF was Israeli and had his fiancé and her family her for their wedding which was to take place soon. The hall was arranged. Everything. It was like "In & Out" without the wedding because we met and he called the whole thing off at the last minute. We stayed together seven years.
I think we are seeing today that a third of men have gay feelings and a quarter have had at least some gay experience nowadays. Those old percentages come from a time of antigay hysteria and AIDS hysteria.
No doubt times have changed with respect to tolerance of the homosex. However, "some gay experience" does not mean the guy isn't straight any more than "some heterosexual experience" means a guy isn't gay.
r99, can you cite a source for your purported stats?
[quote]It's Charlie's son, Winston, who's the hunk in that family.
Oh, HER! Yeah, well, he figured out pretty fast that I was just using him to get to Charlie.
Bodyspace is a great place to gawk and interact with hot straight fitness dudes.
I am a cocksucker. God made me this way. Yes, I sometimes like a 69 or getting fucked. I can really get into some hot ass.
I have never cared much about getting my dick sucked. I would suck cock every day, one after another. Not that concerned about looks etc.
Straights give me the best shot of the one way action I want. It's not about them being straight, it is about them just wanting sucked off.
only trans queens have straight fetish
Only straight cock goes in this mouth.
R40 must be a real [italic] BLAST [/italic]at parties.
I would actually prefer hanging out with somebody like R40. At least they are not delusional.
Yes, R112. Because another man's mouth is [italic]exactly[/italic] where a straight man's cock wants to go.
r105, now that was too much information.
I'm with R105. I'm a natural born cocksucker, and from what I've been told, pretty damn good at it. It really doesn't matter that much what the guy looks like or how old he is. I dont want my dick sucked or played with, all I want is to suck dick and eat sperm. When a gay guy asks if he can play with my dick or suck me off its a deal breaker. Straight guys who just want head and nothing more are perfect for that. The married ones are even better because they dont want anything complicated and there are no drama issues.
[quote]Straight guys who just want head and nothing more are perfect for that.
You mean bisexual or closeted gay guy.
[quote]You mean bisexual or closeted gay guy.
Maybe, who knows what they consider themselves. Quite frankly, it doesn't matter to me. I'm not interested in what is happening in their mind.
[quote]Maybe, who knows what they consider themselves. Quite frankly, it doesn't matter to me. I'm not interested in what is happening in their mind.
How many cocks have you sucked? Thousands? Are you open to anal?
I don't understand that fetish either.
Obviously, if a guy is hot - straight or gay - I'm going to want him. But for a relationship, I want a gay man only.
I've lost count. On average I suck about 4 to five a week, most are men I have sucked before.
R120 is a woman.
If you are a man, the answer is so obvious, you'd be embarrassed to ask it.
[quote] First of all, if you have sex with a man, he is not straight.
I've fucked a couple of women in my life. Am I straight? Have I been deceiving everyone, including myself, all these years??
R122, what about anal?
R122 I dont do anal.
R124 bi freak
R126, really? You're missing out.
Do the guys, when they cum, do they shoot on your face? Do you swallow or spit it out?
R128 Im not really missing out because its not something that really gets me excited and besides, the men dont want to fuck, they want head. I always swallow.
Macho is attractive to me as a look but as an attitude it's a huge turn off. I prefer the gentle giant types.
Are there guys out there who shoot tons of cum? Guys that put porn stars to shame?
None of the guys want to fuck? Have they ever asked?
R131 I cant say how much they shoot as their dick is usually in the back of my throat when it happens. No, they never ask to fuck. They either want a long, slow cockworshiping blow job or a fast blow and go. Fucking is too much time, requires condoms and probably too gay for them to consider, which is fine with me. If they want to fuck, there are other guys out there offering that.
[quote]and probably too gay for them to consider, which is fine with me.
Wait a sec...a man has his lips around their cock!
You can't judge the size of a guy's load when he shoots in your mouth? Huh...
Which types of guys have you sucked off? How do you find these guys? Do they seek you out? Are they hot? Are they crazy? Do you suck off really gross guys too?
[quote]You can't judge the size of a guy's load when he shoots in your mouth?
I never said they shoot in my mouth. I said at the back of my throat. If you ever sucked dick real deep then you would understand.
No, I haven't sucked a dick like that yet. I will though. I'll try it.
R134, have you ever eaten out their ass?
I can't tell you how many pictures I've stolen from Bodyspace for fake craigslist ads during boring work days.
share some of them, r137
Would you rather date a man who acts like Bette Davis or Tallullah Bankhead?
R139 I would never date a man who is so boring he knows these two
R139, lol, isn't that the same thing, like asking would you like to get kicked in the ass or the arse?
flaming trans queens are nasty but they are usually the ones with the "straight" fetish
[quote]Would you rather date a man who acts like Bette Davis or Tallullah Bankhead?
I'd rather run needles through my eyes.
[quote]This is why they hait us.
Whereas your inability to enable auto-correct is why [italic]we[/italic] hate you, R6.
They do hait us, R149.
Haiti...read between the lines
just be masculine
The whole Frankie and Zach dynamic on Big Brother is a very public example of a lovesick gay dude pining over a straight-identified dude who will never be available the way the gay dude wishes he could be. It is sad.
[quote]The whole Frankie and Zach dynamic on Big Brother is a very public example of a lovesick gay dude pining over a straight-identified dude who will never be available the way the gay dude wishes he could be. It is sad.
Um, Zach is not straight. Straight guys do NOT go as far as Zach has, even just joking around.
I do agree that Frankie fawning over the REAL straight guys (Caleb, Cody, etc.) is pathetic.
We are the worst offenders of the "suck one cock and you're gay" theory. Plenty of guys experiment. It doesn't make them gay. You can argue they are at some level bisexual, but for a lot of them, it's just about trying something different.
The problem with falling in love with straight guys is that it can lead to sex. At which point you, the gay guy, thinks you're about 6 weeks from marriage, given what good buddies you've become, while the straight guy is completely freaked out and may end the friendship totally or, more likely, just withdraw.
For a lot of us it's a way of making sure that love never happens, that we are just theoretically gay.
It's also about wanting to be more like the straight guy we're shipping, to be thought of as more like him.
This is clearly one of those threads where demographics is very important. I think polls (yes I know they are unscientific) have shown that the average age on DL is a little older. The truth is, while there are still issues with gay sex in pockets of the country, on the whole, millennials don't have the same hang ups and issues about it that Boomers and to a lesser degree Gen Xers have about gay sex. So they are more open to experimentation, without it putting some huge label on who they are and where they fall on the sex scale. A person's sexual identity is really not up for debate. If he says he's straight, then he's straight. Even he says it with two dicks up his ass.
I think a lot of it goes back to adolescence. 90% of us were not out in high school, some of us weren't out in college either, and we all developed a crush on a straight guy along the way, maybe he was our best friend, or maybe he was just a casual acquaintance, but in any case for the vast majority of us, our "first loves" were straight men. Our ultimate fantasy was that he secretly felt the same way about us as we did about him, but of course he never did. This straight man then becomes the ultimate object of desire, we want him but we can never have him, at a time when all we want is to be loved.
Most gay guys get over this, it is a phase of the closet, and we move on, learn to stop caring about straights and find attractiveness and beauty in our fellow gay men. Others however never quite get over it. They never stop viewing straight men as superior to gay men, they compare all potential partners to the straight ideal of their teenage years, who is forever on a pedestal in their minds. The thing is, I don't think most gay men who do this realize what they're doing, and if they did (and understood it will never make them happy) then they would stop.
That makes a lot of sense R161. I'd even add that for a lot of us that straight best friend was someone very good-looking and athletic and charismatic (at least in our eyes) and that the forbidden nature of our longing made the whole thing even hotter/more romantic.
I don't know any gay men who lust after straights. It's all a bogus tale put out by femmy gays who can't get a date, so they claim that gay guys are lusting after straights.
[quote]I don't know any gay men who lust after straights.
R163 leads a bro-free life.
I am only attracted to straight or bi dudes. It is all about total masculinity. No trace of femininity or girliness. Be all man.
There is always a R82 every time we do one of these. He's wrong.
Anyone who believes he's figured out the heterosexual male is delusional. While they're taking that millisecond to decide whether or not to let you fuck them, there is either a LOT going on upstairs or nothing at all. In either event, it's amazing how many of them will try it. Once or at most three times and just with the same guy (mostly!!)
My personal reference: three guys in this town who, like me, are in their sixties now.
you are exaggerating, r166
Between 95-90% of the men we are going to encounter are going to be straight. Straight men have nearly all the same attributes as gay men, the idea that we wouldn't ever be attracted to any of them is completely ridiculous.
Hopefully the overwhelming majority of us know that anything more than lusting is a waste of time.
Because most gay men, despite how masculine they try to act on the outside, and how successful they are at it, are really fem bitches deep deep deep down, and so they are attracted to the ideal of masculinity, and what is more societally entrenched than the straight man's masculinity which is given to him at birth, and so different from the masculinity that the gay man had to work for and that still evades him.
That's why many gay men want straight men. It's aspirational.
And they even hate men who simply look feminine regardless of how they act. Because it reminds them of something in themselves that they hate.
I have standards!
I only like str8 guys if they have a wedding ring and offspring!
Only flaming and wanna be 'trans' queens lust after Straight and Bi guys.
Only "ugly" and "obese" queens like r172 are so judgemental. Nobody even wants you fatty
Stop viewing people as objects and start valuing people as individuals loved and cherished by God.
My husband and I talk about the hot, masculine straight boys at the gym, because, well, they're hot. It's not like we think we could invite them into our bed and turn them gay. Lighten up.