Can someone please explain the word ''dude'' to me.%0D\
Is it a kind of macho expression or do gays refer to each other as dude and what exactly does it imply.%0D\
Someone posted here recently and implied he was ''straight acting'' and kept using the word ''dude'' as if to validate it.%0D\
I have from time to time, when visiting the USA, been called ''dude'' and I''ve always thought ''No, I''m not a dude, please don''t call me that'', but, really, I''m not in fact completely sure.
British to the bone.
In all honesty, Oscar Wilde and his friends coined it to express ''attitude''.
What do you think ''dude'' means, OP?%0D\
Here in Australia, it''s just a friendly greeting, often by a male to males or females.%0D\
Similar terms include: mate, buddy, etc.
It is meaningless, as is most of what passes for conversation among those who use the word.
The term "dude", at least in the U.S., originally meant a city man who was always quite well dressed, a "city slicker" if you will. In the 19th century city men would travel out west to "dude ranches" where they could experience the cowboy life.\
Obviously over the years the meaning has been bastardized to some extent. Many guys who use the term have no idea what it really means. They use it because they hear other guys use it and they simply like the sound of it. To them I think it''s just a form of friendly male affection (if not affectation).
It started out being used by surfers and skateboarders. aka people who get stoned a lot.
Only used by cornpone trash. If someone calls you this, it is a signal to move in the opposite direction. Its like *awesome* or *what up G*. The U.S. mangles the Queen''s English to the point where its unrecognizable.
I think its slightly complimentary to be called a dude. In the 60''s someone who was hip was a "cool dude" and I think it still implies that you''re not a square or a loser.\
I don''t think it has anything to do with gay or straight.
Dude looks like a lady!
OP, Prince Harry''s speech referred to his brother as "dude" one million times after the wedding. It seems you don''t even know anything about your own culture, dude. "Dude" is not an American thing.
The rug really tied the room together.
In the USA, dude can also be used towards a woman. \
As an American, I''m a bit confused by this greeting. To me, as a person who grew up in an upper middle class area of Manhattan, ''dude'' to me has always had a greaser or low class connotation. \
I''m not in a demographic to use it or have anyone call me a dude.
Dude is the current "man". As a gay man I find it quite interesting the guys that will "dude" me. I have a colleague in his thirties who is quite the athlete and ladies man who always dudes me. I dude him right back in a wry, gay way. Believe it or not, when I was teaching in South Central LA, nigga was used in the exact same way. If you replace dude in Harry''s speech with nigga, you get the ghetto version.
I don''t know what you mean, bro.
[quote]Only used by cornpone trash.\
You''re clearly an idiot. I heard the mooks in our New York City and New Jersey offices utter that word so much that my skin crawled every time they did it.
[quote]nigga was used in the exact same way\
Where I live it''s always "my nigga". \
"WHUZZUP MY NIGGAAAAAA!!!"
When I was small, black people called each other "Jackson"
and that wasn''t their name
Often just a term indicating friendliness, or an invitation to jocularity.\
Can also be used to "take the piss" out of someone. A pretentious statement can be shot down with a simple reply of "Dude." (Said in a low tone of voice, sometimes accompanied by a raised eyebrow.)
dude is like the British mate.\
It''s an affirmation that the people who talk to each other are on friendly terms. But the moment they no longer call each other dude (or use the word dude at least in every second sentence) they reached a serious crossroad where they either become lovers or mortal enemies.
"Dude" is the Mercun version of chavs using "mate".
I prefer "shawtie"
R12 and R17 and R19 are all correct. %0D\
The word is used variously as meaningless filler (a substitute for, like, you know, a word like ''like''), as mild endearment, as irony, as comraderie, as disparagement, as emphasis, as exclamation, as substitute for Sir or Bubba or buddy or man or mate or guy, and in other ways besides, but for all the nuanced uses, it doesn''t mean much at all.%0D\
It comes from California surf culture, as R5 said. It''s used very generically now to mean the same as "guy." Its use says more about the speaker than the object. Any one can be a dude, but only certain types of people use the word dude. Some people use it ironically.
At one time, I believe it meant that you were getting a Dell.
I am a 39 year old woman, and a coworker (of the same age) called me dude last week. It was weird.
What is a mook?
West Coast usage is as a mild reproach / attention getter: "Dude, quit harshing my mellow", "Dude, you''re blocking my wave", etc.
I have not been called dude yet. I am also a 39 year old female.
R26, I''m originally from SoCal and I only use it now to point out when someone''s out of line, "Dude, you need to fucking deal with that shit on your own!"
Exactly, R28. "Dude" is a specific address to be used when a person is presumed to be ignorant of his/her impact upon his/her social, economic, or physical environment.
[quote]In the USA, dude can also be used towards a woman. \
Which is so ridiculous.
Like "man" in the 60s and 70s it serves a social bonding purpose. It suggests "We''re all in this together; we''re on the same level; we belong to the same group/team/tribe/class"\
Like "comrade" in the Soviet Union, but social rather than political.\
It can be used in various ways depending on the tone. It can be serve as an endearment, a form of address, a synonym for a "person" (usually male) when the person''s name is unknown, an exclamation or a reproach.\
Variations: Buddy, Bro, Brah, G, nigga, etc.\
All are used only in casual settings.
[quote]I am a 39 year old woman, and a coworker (of the same age) called me dude last week. It was weird.%0D\
Tell her to stop it. Stop it at once!
R29 nails it.\
I was getting frustrated with a work colleague recently and kept prefacing every sentence when speaking with him with "Dude." He called me on it: "Don''t dude me." It''s true. It''s like beginning every sentence with the person''s name. "Mark, I''m just trying to help. "Mark, why don''t we..." It''s patronizing.
[quote]"Mark, I''m just trying to help. "Mark, why don''t we..." It''s patronizing.%0D\
A bit like thanking people all the time.%0D\
''Thank you, Mark!''%0D\
''Mark, would you.... thank you, Mark''.%0D\
I once worked in a restaurant and the manager was always thanking me and using my name, without a smile, as she swished by.
No cunt, its trash.
That is only one of many uses, r33. The meaning is almost entirely dependent on context and tone.
I''m surprised the grammarians on this board haven''t spoken up. Dude is the past tense of do-do, as in do-do face. After the do-do get on a guys face, he is said to be dude faced.
r15, I agree as a greeting. However, well known responses are "nigga, you trippin'' or nigga, you crazy."\
I would love to hear Harry''s speech dubbed.
Courtney Love offers Amanda Bynes some advice: "pull it together dude".
Dude, I know this TVC is more than 5 years old but it still makes me chuckle.
It was NEVER from California surf culture.
It was always valleyspeak derived from tobacco road.
The Dude abides.
OP, dude, what the hell is your damage?
[quote]As an American, I'm a bit confused by this greeting. To me, as a person who grew up in an upper middle class area of Manhattan, 'dude' to me has always had a greaser or low class connotation. I'm not in a demographic to use it or have anyone call me a dude.
This whole thread is full of Mary!
I thought it's more a generational thing?
I think "dudette" is more common, but I did read a book where a character (a young Chinese-American kid in NYC) would call his gf "Dudesse!"
I am sure that the term dude is becoming common in the UK. British tend to follow what is popular in the U.S.
I hear lots of girls and women refer to other females as "dude." It is the way to show a chick is cool, hip, and down with the bros.
Calling someone "Man" is a bit friendlier than "dude."
"Dude" is ofetn used to insult of be patronizing such as, "Dude, you're an idiot, let me explain how it's really done."
You totally made that up dude, R54. Stop trying to impose your heavy reality on other people.
You're bringing us all down.
The perfect definition of "dude" would be not R11.
"Dude" is like "Fuck", in that it has a hundred definitions and can be used as almost any part of speech. You can have entire conversations using just this word... tonality and context providing all the meaning.
Dude (USA) = Cunt (UK)
OP? Dude = bloke. Or "mate". It's like bloke when used in third person ("Check out that dude") but like mate when used to address someone ("Cheers, dude".)
That's it. It means "man". Like many gender-specific epithets, its plural form can also be used to describe a mixed group or even a group of women, similar to how "guys" is used.
Are you impaired in some way? Or just unfamiar with the common differences between American and British English that most native-speakers throughout the Anglosphere have managed to pick up through simple observation and listening?
Dude, also is a placeholder in a sentence, such as "oh dude, I forgot to get some cranberries!"
I've never heard it used that way, r60.
When someone says "Oh dude, I forgot cranberries" they're addressing someone as "dude". It could be their companion, their self or the voices in their head, but it's not a placeholder like "ummmm" or an interjection like "shit!"
It's a noun. It means "man".
It's really quite simple, dude.
He he, OP said "bone"!
amusing, as plenty of young Brits now say "dude" all the time. All the English-speaking countries eventually adopt American slang but are a few years behind naturally. Technology/internet has sped things up though. OP must be a 40 year old Brit.
There was an SNL comedian who did a bit where he purported to show that "dude" could mean anything.
"You fucked up really bad."
[shaking head] Duuuuuuuude.
"I think there's a psycho killer hiding in my closet."
[frightened, quiet, tentative] Dude?
Hard to explain, I guess, but pretty funny
The definitive study of the use of 'dude' is by the sociolinguist Scott Kiesling of the University of Pittsburgh. It's an academic study, but it's very well done (and very funny). Kiesling's PhD dissertation is based on his extended fieldwork in an American fraternity house. A link to the article and more info is at the link below.
I really haven't lost interest in "dude" yet. So many cute, dim hotties still use it. I have it quite a few more years.
Dude = mate
OP = idiot
OP, it is equivalent to "bloke".
Guess Brits can be as prissy as Americans.
Dude is more popular than ever, contrary to what some on here maintained a few years ago. I hear old people using it now.
Anyone notice how dudes today often refer to women with male monikers, such as saying, "yeah, man, that was a great game" or "dude, wassup with that?" Just saw a man talking to a reporter who said to her, "Yeah man, that was...."
The 'real' shape of the American man: Dudes, you're porky!American guys: You’ve got guts. Sorry, that is not a compliment.
Through a new project that blends 3-D computer-generated avatars with Center for Disease Control and Prevention body-mass measurements, we now can see the shape of an “average” U.S. adult male, compared to the build of an “average” man in Japan, France and the Netherlands.
The avatars, sporting nothing but tighty-whities for maximum exposure, were created by Pittsburgh artist Nickolay Lamm. Lamm previously created a 3-D model of a "normal" Barbie, based on the proportions of the average 19-year-old American woman, which became a viral hit last summer.
Based on average height and waistline for men, ages 30 to 39, the American dude looks a bit Weeble-like, with the broadest beer belly and biggest bum. BMI is a gauge of body fat in adults calculated by height and weight.t's no surprise that the average American man is a bit of a porker. Sixty-nine percent of all Americans over the age of 20 are overweight or obese. But a number is one thing and seeing it in the computer-generated flesh is another.
"Rather than explaining it in bar graphs or pie charts, I thought it would be a lot more powerful to visually see what we look like compared to other countries," said Lamm.
The BMI for a typical adult American male is 28.6, according to the CDC, which rates a BMI of 18.5 to 24.9 as “normal” and a BMI of 25 to 29.9 as “overweight.” Any adult with a BMI of 30 or higher is considered obese.
The Japanese male avatar represents the average national BMI of 23.7; while the Netherlands avatar illustrates a BMI of 25.2 and the avatar for France represents at 25.5.
R63 OP must have recently travelled 40 years in time.
Not to change the subject too much, but I get people calling me "boss," or "chief" all the time. It seems like it started with young, Hispanic guys addressing their superiors or elders, but it seems to have spread throughout the service industry, at least in southern California. Has anyone else been hearing those a lot?
We don't say "bloke"
r75, yeah dude. "Boss" is really big among urban youth, African American, Latin, and hip hop culture. It is a very respectful yet hip term. I love being called bossed by hot thuggish bros.
What is a "Dude Ranch"? My older, straight friends go on vacation to horse riding places and I always see that in the brochure.
Am I missing out?
OP must be old enough to remember Mott The Hooples' "All The Young Dudes" (Hey Dudes!). OP should properly be addressed as "Dowager Cuntess"
"Boss" gets traction from video game/ gaming culture. The main opponent to be challenged at different levels is a Boss. Thus, "boss fight", "______ like a Boss", etc
[quote]When I was small, black people called each other "Jackson"
Was Jack Benny your boss?
I smell mothballs in this thread.
Dude is a term used by straight men for each other. Nothing to do with gays. Straights say it to make you think they're "cool" and with it. Mainly used by the ignorant, low IQ pussy-gettin crowd. Don't use this in your communication with others. Just makes you look stupid.
America's 12 Bro-iest Neighborhoods, Ranked
Bros, kind of like obscenity, are hard to define. But we know 'em when we see 'em.
Maybe they were in a frat, maybe they weren’t. Maybe they work in investment banking, maybe they don't. All we're really certain of is that they don’t see graduating from college and having a job as a reason to not be doing shots on a Monday night (probably in one of these bars).
But where exactly are they doing these shots? While it’s easy to find bros when you're in school, once you get out it's a little harder. Luckily, though, they still tend to congregate -- like pledges to fraternity row -- in specific neighborhoods across the country. And these 12 'hoods attract the most.
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